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“Let the first act of every morning be to make the following resolve for the day:

- I shall not fear anyone on Earth.

- I shall fear only God.

- I shall not bear ill will toward anyone.

- I shall not submit to injustice from anyone.

- I shall conquer untruth by truth.

And in resisting untruth, I shall put up with all suffering.”

― Mahatma Gandhi

Thanksgiving During a Divorce

Three things to keep in mind during Thanksgiving while in the midst of a divorce.  First, holidays can be tough in the best of times so be gentle on yourself and your family.  No need to compete to have the bigger, better holiday; just enjoy the time you have with those who are with you. Second, if this is your first Thanksgiving that you have to share your children or are without your children, take a deep breath.  Try to make the exchange quick and simply preparing the children well in advance with positive talk and vibes about the new normal.  Third, be thankful. There is a lot to be grateful for in the worst of conditions. Think about change as a positive and look for the new and exciting ways you can spend your time.  

Valentine's Day During Divorce

Valentine's Day is a lot of pressure on anyone.  But if you are going through a divorce when this overcharged day comes around for the first time since your filing it can wreak a lot of havoc on an already crazy making time.  The pressure to be "in love", the memories of better days, and the fear of being unloved, or worse, unlovable, all collide in a powerful way.  So do not be blindsided!  Get yourself prepared!  Here are three tips.  First, call your bestie and plan a date - whether it is a coffee, a cocktail or a jog and a comedy show, or a ball game and a massage; do anything together except a Jennifer Lopez movie!  Second,  buy yourself a dozen roses and a bauble.  Do not go crazy with the cost of the bauble, just a small token of appreciation for your awesomeness!  Third, call in your therapist, your priest, your shaman or your reiki master.  Heck, call them all.  Gather support for that lousy day.  Bonus Tip:  Stay off of Insta and all social media unless you are posting your awesome selfies of self-care.  Do not be tempted to check in on the Ex.  Together we can get through this day.  If none of these tips work in the moment and you cannot resist the pressure of the your local suicide hotline.  No one and nothing is worth your life Queen!   

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Season of Nonviolence

Begin the Season of Non-Violence with a visit to:

M.K. Gandhi Institute

for Nonviolence

929 South Plymouth Avenue

Rochester, New York 14608


Our Second Blog Entry

Black History Month February 2022

The Black History Month 2022 theme, “Black Health and Wellness,” explores "the legacy of not only Black scholars and medical practitioners in Western medicine, but also other forms of healthcare including birthworkers, doulas, midwives, naturopaths, herbalists, and others. Black transgender and gender non-conforming (TGNC) individuals have nurtured themselves and their communities. Black TGNC individuals have always been at the forefront of the movement for LGBTQ+ liberation and Black civil rights, including William Dorsey Swann and other early organizers of Drag Performances and Balls in the late 19th and early 20th century; to those who helped to lead the collective uprising for queer rights at Stonewall in 1969, including Stormé Delarverie, Marsha P. Johnson, Miss Major Griffin-Gracy, and Zazu Nova; to trans and gender non-conforming leaders in the Black Lives Matter movement, including Janaya Khan, Elle Hearns, and Jonovia Chase. Black TGNC people face higher rates of health disparities and discrimination. Further barriers show up without culturally competent care and education about the health care needs of TGNC people. Black TGNC people deserve respect, dignity, and autonomy in navigating their health needs.

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January  2022

Pleased to announce V. Julia Luyster has become a member of the New York Bar and is accepting clients in New York State.  We thank our clients and friends in Florida for making this expansion possible.  We will continue to meet the needs of our clients and friends in Florida as we enter a New Year full of possibility.  Look for New York updates on this website in the coming months. 
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